Archive | December, 2010

Solid Gold New Year!

31 Dec

Happy New Year’s Eve!  I hope your night is full of magic, celebration, and rejuvination.  Be safe, be merry, be lovely.  Turn the page and welcome a new year of chances, opportunities and experiences.  Enjoy yourself!

Here’s to a new year that’s solid gold.    I hope your days & nights are filled with whimsy, love, and rays of light when you need them most.

Goldie Player

Goldie Player by Mlle. Remi

xoxo
Mlle

 

 

 

 

xoxo

Mlle. Remi

Happy New Years: Staying In

31 Dec

Body Toolkit: Learning to Love Your Shape

31 Dec

On a recent plunge into the depths of my closet, I started to get very frustrated as it seems that nothing fits quite right and my first instinct is to naturally snark on myself and my body. Its very easy to fall into the trap of prodding and poking at extra weight on my frame and get super upset and hateful of myself. Instead, I try to pull myself up out of that hole and embrace my added curves. This kind of positive body image is something that everyone struggles with in some form or another.

I know that talking about body issues on a lingerie blog could seem counter-intuitive. Here I am featuring garments that are often associated with sex and sexuality, and that connotation of lingerie can be somewhat anti-feminist, and creates confusion around healthy body image. Sexual weapon or body-shaping tool, lingerie is so often used to shame women into thinking they are too fat, or too skinny, that their boobs are too small/too big, that their curves are not acceptable, etc. Its all awful and to an extent, unavoidable.

In her post Non-Sexual Nudity-A Tool For Body Love Rabbit Write has provided an interesting tale of her experience in developing body-positive attitudes and putting a stop to negative self-attack. Her writing carries a hopeful and honest message, and doesn’t avoid talking about the myriad of ways that we lash out at ourselves when our bodies do not look or feel the way we idealistically want them to be.

My goal is NOT to put emphasis on fitting your body into an image of sexuality, but of coming to a place of happiness with your body type. Finding garments that help emphasize what you love about your body, and becoming more comfortable with what you might not love is a great way to develop body-love! Fashion and undergarments don’t need to be a tool of the over-sexed masses; they can be means of self-expression, comfort, and joy.

In my own life, I carry a philosophy of being good to myself. I’m not going to lie and say I NEVER call myself fat or become displeased with the winter-weight gain. But I will say that I don’t get too hard on myself, and I always try to find a way to fall back in love with my body. For instance, at the moment I’m having some hormonal issues that make me feel crazy, my skin looks bad, and my stomach is rounder and fuller. This isn’t PMS stuff but just generally whacked-out hormones. Until I can get that under control, I carry extra weight. Rather than get super upset and hateful towards myself, I’d rather just accept it and move on. Drink more water, walk around more, and enjoy the fact that I am curvy. Truthfully, I enjoy the way my ass looks right now! Especially in frilly little knickers. I’m happy being plump!

Another reason that I spend so much time at home in silk dressing gowns and robes is because I love the way my body looks and feels, and that has nothing to do with trying to appeal to someone else. I admit, sometimes the lingerie I’m wearing makes me feel sexy and confident, but its more about comfort than anything else. While I am in a committed relationship and do strive to be sexually fulfilling (and fulfilled), embracing my body and learning to love every bit of myself has been a turning point in my personal evolution. Bonus points: because I am so comfortable and happy with my body, this confidence bubbles up to the surface and allows me to enjoy the attentions of my fiance because he knows I love my body, and he loves my body, and its a win-win kind of freedom.

So love yourself and your body, as much as you can! Self-love will do you good!
xoxo
Mlle. Remi

P.S. Gala Darling has written extensively on the issues of “radical self love” & positive body image. She is very eloquent and passionate about the subject. If you haven’t read her articles on this topic, do give it a shot. Very inspiring!

Panty of the Day: Crepe Paper Panties

30 Dec Black Pleated Lace Skirted Thong

This sexy ruffled-skirt thong is so amazing, and reminds me just a little bit of crepe-paper ribbon. Although its sold out, do check out the Naughty Naughty shop on Etsy for more delicious lingerie morsels.

Black Pleated Lace Skirted Thong

Black Pleated Lace Skirted Thong

Loose Buttons: Lateness Edition

30 Dec

The Christmas holiday was a blast and I was so busy celebrating with my family and friends that I sadly neglected this little corner-blog.  Life happens, right?  Another sad tale of neglect is that I didn’t take any photos this year of holiday shenanigans so my memories will have to suffice.

My sweetie-pie Mister must have been keeping a close eye on my Christmas posts because many, many pairs of tights were gifted to me including two fleece-lined pairs that are soooo warm and cozy!  I also received a sewing machine (!!!), a lovely new cashmere scarf, a gorgeous crystal necklace (from my dearest friend L.), and lots of other goodies.  More importantly, I got to spend lots of time relaxing and enjoying the holiday spirit.

You may remember that I hinted about making gifts this year, and I can now reveal that the Mister & I made several kinds of hand-milled soap including Olde Fashioned Shaving soap, a Shea-butter & Goats milk oatmeal blend, some lovely lemon-lavender & aloe soaps for the ladies, and soap-on-a-rope for the menfolk.  We also gifted lip balm and massage bars, all created with a bit of time & lots of love. ♥

A few other highlights:

♥ hilarious/hysterical phone calls to my sister about our crazy holiday stories
♥ champagne toasts with out-of-town relatives to celebrate my engagement to the Mister
♥ sharing the first hour of Christmas with our closest friends at their lovely home
♥ waking up on Christmas morning to the smell of bacon frying (mmm!) in the kitchen
♥ long drives & heartfelt talks about the future & goals
♥ giant snowstorms & porch igloos (seriously!)

Anyhooo, despite the lateness of this post, here is this week’s Loose Buttons: a collection of images & links that kept me happy over the past week.

I can’t get enough of The Civil Wars! Haunting, emotional & soaring music full of harmony.

The Civil Wars

The Civil Wars

I loved this article from Adore Vintage about how to date vintage lingerie from old advertisements. The post is full of great tips and cute images, including this one.

Peek-A-Boo, Naughty Nightie!

Peek-A-Boo, Naughty Nightie!

More vintage advertisements from Dior

Vintage Dior

Vintage Dior

 

Etam Lace Body Suit

Cassandra Smith for Etam Lingerie A/W 2010

Cassandra Smith for Etam Lingerie A/W 2010

 

How amazing is this boudoir?!  This is my dream closet!

Gorgeous, sultry dress.  This dress from Shabby Apple would be an amazing New Years party dress, perfect for smoking in dark hallways and drinking champagne out of crystal flutes.

Shabby Apple "Ski Bop" Maroon Dress

Shabby Apple "Ski Bop" Maroon Dress

Okay my sweets, that concludes this Loose Buttons Edition for the week ending December 25, 2010.  I hope you had a very merry holiday!  Let’s look onward to the coming celebrations of another year closing doors while opening windows into next year!  Cheers!

Xoxo,

Mlle. Remi

 

Panty of the Day: French Toile

21 Dec

Oooo la la, this adorable silk set from {Underdressed Lingerie} is such a gorgeous take on French Toile, evoking imagery of lords and ladies frolicking in the grass after an afternoon picnic.  The frilly details, the shaping of the cups, and the lightweight silk is all so lovely.

{Amelie Single Ruffle Bra & Rouched Knicker}

Undressed Lingerie: Amelie Bra & Knicker

Undressed Lingerie: Amelie Bra & Knicker

Amelie Single-Frill Bra

Undressed Lingerie: Amelie Single-Frill Bra

Amelie Rouched KnickerUndressed Lingerie: Amelie Rouched Knicker

I know that was a set of lingerie, and not just a panty, but I couldn’t resist sharing the entire set.  Pop on over to Underdressed Lingerie for more beautiful bras & panty sets; they carry Ayten Gasson, Fleur’t, and Mimi Holiday.  Underdressed ships from the UK but don’t let that stop you!

I’m off to dream of a romp in the french grass!

Xoxo,

Mlle. Remi

Loose Buttons: Soapy Sunday Edition

20 Dec

My sweetie & I spent most of the weekend working on our holiday crafts; I do enjoy giving handmade gifts to my family & friends each year.  Usually I bake cookies and other delicious morsels, but this year I wanted to do something different.  I can’t say what we’ve been working on yet, but I can say that my  hands are very soft & clean! I hope to post photos of out handmade goodies after the holidays.

Here are a few tidbits that I came across for this week’s edition of Loose Buttons (Link ♥):

These {Le Chat Noir Knee Socks} are so adorable!

I love these images from {Henri Moshizi}. {#9} & {#5}

This advice on {how to be happy} is very sweet & effective.  “Read good books”; “Take long naps”.  YES!

Jewel-toned, rich colors & satin details just make me swoon. {via Style Bakery}

{Aubade Bandeau Bra & Trousers}

 

Portrait of Mme Mucha

Portrait of Mme Mucha

 

Lace Boots

{Image Credits Unknown}

 

ASOS Striped Stockings

 

Raspberry Fishnets

[On Sundays, look back and] ask yourself what was good about each day and how it could have been better. Use five colored pencils to underline on the calendar, in the appropriate color, whatever you did in the previous week:

Black: I wouldn’t have done this.

Blue: I would have delegated this.

Red: I did this for health.

Green: I did this to grow.

Favorite color: I did this with family/friends, for fun.

After you’ve valued your past week, look at what’s coming in the next week, which should be written in pencil. Is your schedule humane? Are there things you should erase right now? Are important colors missing?

– Deborah Szekley, writing for Spirituality & Health
From Utne.com: {How to Avoid Becoming a Boring Old Person}

Dreamy!

 

Vavavoooom! This woman's body is amazing!

Super cute 1950's Slice of Heaven!

Alright Guys & Dolls,I’m off to bed-time land.  Here’s hoping the coming week is full of wonderful surprises.

Xoxo,

Mlle. Remi


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